Saturday, June 16, 2007

Most Popular Reactions to my Coming Out, Documented

Shock. Primarily because not only did I come out, but I showed all the dimensions of gay life in this blog. I guess for conservative people that may be a little too much information to digest in one day. Nevertheless, it was surely effective having elicited a lot of reactions like this. I understand it takes time for everything to sink in. Dismay. For some people who "looked up to me" (or the "straight" me), their faces somewhat looked dismayed. As if my orientation in one way or another has crushed the squeaky-clean image of me. All I have to say is that way before becoming "Kuya Thad" I was already the Thad who went out on dates with interesting guys. I merely revealed this side of me to finally put a stop to why-don't-you-have-a-girlfriend questions, it doesn't change the fact that I'm still me. All other facets of my personality remained the same, for those who wished I should've just kept this part of me hidden, try being in my shoes and you'll see.
Disgust. Holier-than-thou people had this reaction. Their saintly personas must not be tarnished with the likes of me. Not a problem for me..
Deadma. Well, I've got to hand it to them. Maybe sexual orientation was just never an issue, or perhaps they simply knew already.
"It's OK." I'm glad a lot of people are mature and empathic- I'm certainly grateful. This makes the whole process a lot easier ; )
Applause. I would do the same for anyone who comes out or overcomes a difficult task.. Heck, it's not easy and you definitely need to be commended!
Lastly, I would like to share a message sent to me by one of my schoolmates (actually a former lab-partner in Inorganic Chem):

kuya!!
grabe ka!!! i almost cried... i'm in total shock! idol talaga kita,it takes a lot of courage to do what you did!!!!haaaaaa!!!!nalurong talaga aq!!!nice kuya itaas mo ang bandera niyo! mapa member aq ha iyo! ipapabasa ko ha akon mga friends especially ha may makikitid na pagiisip! kuya cool blog site!!!ever!!!!

Regardless of the reactions.. I'm happy- it was certainly a relief to finally be just myself. Thanks guys!

11 comments:

John Halcyon von Rothschild said...

True friends stay with you through the Good and the BAD. I think you know who your TRUE friends are now. Love the Blog! Ciao!

Phoenix said...

@john halcyon von rothschild: Yes, I do know who my friends are ; ) I'm glad you liked my blog = ) I've also taken a peak at yours and I've enjoyed the entries.

mink_twink said...

Kuya Thad (talagang kuya ang itinawag hehe)i really admire your courage, hindi lang appaluse and ibinibigay ko sayo me kasama pang standing ovation with matching tumbling pa! hehe,

howd i wish i have ur courage to tell what you are, inside, siguro hindi pa lang ako ready...

i reallyy LoVEEEEEEEE ur bloggie,
by the way, ibalik mo na yung CBOX mo!!!

Phoenix said...

@ mink_twink: naku, kuya na rin tawag mo LOL! Yup, dapat you come out when you are ready, and in your terms. Be creative haha! Seriously though.. lalo na pag sa family siguro take it slow. I admire your relationship with your dad, I think your news will be well received.. Basta just remember, there are a lot of us going through similar journeys.. ; )

Phoenix said...

Regarding the Cbox.. medyo mahirap i-moderate kaya wag na muna siguro.. As it is marami ng sakit ng ulo dahil sa Anatomy at Physics; ) baka bisitahin uli ako ni "Crazy". ok na din 'to for now = )

foxyreign said...

When did you come out?

Phoenix said...

@ foxyreign: just before this semester started.. ; )

josh said...

hmmn different reactions, varying perceptions, i'm happy i have known you in d blog world :)

Phoenix said...

@ josh: same here Josh!

FoxyReign said...

Talaga?!?! Late bloomer ka pala :)

Phoenix said...

@ foxyreign: i moved to a new place ; ) kaya ganun. haay ok lang i guess

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