Don't Judge Someone Until You Walked a Mile in their Shoes

Right before the second Sex and the City movie ruined it all for me, I had been particularly fond of the series. In fact, one of my favorite episodes in the final season- "A Woman's Right to Shoes", was having regular reruns in my laptop. In that episode, Manhattan's ultimate single girl Carrie, famous for her Imeldific addiction to Jimmy Choos and Manolo Blahniks, was invited to a party celebrating a friend's new baby. Upon the insistence of the hostess, the guests were instructed to leave their shoes before they enter the apartment. Carrie later discovers that someone stole her brand new designer shoes, and though her friend offered to replace them she could only offer $200- telling Carrie now that she has kids, responsibilities and a "real life" she thought it was unreasonable to shell out the actual price of $485 just for shoes.

An indignant Carrie fumes to her friends at being "shoe-shamed". She reasoned, when other people get married or have babies, she was there giving gifts and celebrating their choices- why should she feel ashamed that she chose to be single and live a life where she can afford Manolos? In the past years she had given engagement and wedding presents, attended baby showers, and spent money on gifts during holidays and birthdays of their children. She spent thousands of dollars celebrating her friend's choices, and yet they have not spent a single penny celebrating her own choices. To get her point across, Carrie registers at Manolo Blahnik and announces to her friend that she's "getting married" to herself. In the end, her friend buys the replacement pair and sends Carrie her congratulations.

As Carrie struts on the street with her new shoes she ponders:"The fact is, sometimes it's hard to walk in a single woman's shoes, that's why we need really special ones now and then to make the walk a little more fun."

I couldn't agree more...